How to Stay Focused When You Feel Like Giving Up

Many years ago, a little boy was born into poverty in the southern state of Kentucky. He was a small boy in a small home with a small family. His father was a struggling farmer ousted by community politics and destined for strife within the local economy.

By the age of seven, his family was uprooted from their home and forced to make the trek to a more sustainable life in Indiana. There on a new farm with a new life, circumstances began to look up until one night when he was awoken by the screams of his mother. Earlier that evening she had ingested a contaminated glass of milk that led to days of suffering and her eventual death. A tragedy for any child to witness.

Time slowly passed as he bore the weight of emotional distress and relational hardship. His teen years offered him farm work. Work that “helped pass the time” and build up a character of discipline and determination.

At the age of 22, he left the farm and never returned. His immediate task was to create an income. He and friend decided to embark on their first entrepreneurial effort; a convenient store in Salem, Illinois. Excited about his new journey and armed with the mission of “taking out the competition,” he took on substantial debt to make the vision come to life. Sadly, the two men were unfit to compete against the more established enterprise in town and eventually went bankrupt. To add insult to injury, his inability to pay back his loan, led to his possessions being seized by the local sheriff.

As he entered his mid-to-late twenties, he finally cut a break by establishing a career with the local government. But more importantly, he falls in love with a beautiful young woman and asks her to be his wife. She came from a family of ten siblings and had her own dreams of a family with her soon-to-be husband. But just three months into their engagement, she became ill. And at the age of 22, she passed away.

Riddled with depression, he found himself in the dungeons of a nervous breakdown. A breakdown which left him barely employed and bed-ridden for the better half of six months. A few years later, an anonymous poem on the topic of suicide was published on the anniversary of her death and was widely attributed her hurting widower fiance.

Years later, he would write this in a letter to a friend, “Women are the only people I am afraid of and who I never thought would hurt me.โ€

Hardened at heart yet unwilling to give up, he spent the next two decades chasing a series of career moves which were littered with wins and losses. His track record was not impressive nor accomplished. He was a man whose thoughts would consume him, whose confidence was shaky, and whose past wounds had slowed him down.

It wasn’t until the age of 51, in which he would finally break out of his pattern of mediocrity. A moment that almost seemed improbable. An unlikely position that might only have been able to be filled by a man who had overcome so much.

On March 4th, of 1861 Abraham Lincoln became the 16th President of the United States Of America.

Gifting is perfected through trials

Abraham had every reason to give up. His life sounds familiar to the thousands of stories that end in alcoholism, retreat, and regret. But for some reason, his didn’t.


His story teaches us that trials are the schoolroom for our life’s greatest work. It is the moments of sorrow, embarrassment, and defeat that seed the emotional bandwidth required to lead our future.

A leader with little experience in feeling is a leader not ready for a following.

As entrepreneurs, starters, and creators we get slammed into the wall of frustration; forced to fabricate solutions from nothing. But more than that, we are men and women called to a high level of perseverance.

Leaders who see with their intuition and find success at the tips of their ability. People who control their words, their emotions, and their thoughts โ€“ because we understand that success is a war played inside the mind.

In 2014, I almost didn’t become a bestselling author. I remember sitting there stuck in the sixth chapter of “People Over Profit” for days. Thoughts hurled through my mind, “This is a bad idea.” and “Maybe this isn’t the right time.” and “Maybe I shouldn’t write this book.” It wasn’t until my writing coach gave me a reason not to give up.

“Dale, people are looking for you. They are looking for your words on this topic. If you don’t write this book, who will?”

In times of testing, it’s easy to lose sight of why we started. Losing confidence in our ideas is easy. But similar to Abraham’s story, we soon realize our fortitude is never for our benefit but the benefit of others. Giving up isn’t about the change that would occur in our life, rather it’s the end of what our life was going to do, going to change, going to fix, or going to stop.

There’s nothing wrong with going slow, taking a break, or replenishing our motivation. Abraham himself famously wrote, “I’m a slow walker, but I never walk back.”

Ultimately, Abraham Lincoln’s abilities were perfected in his difficulties.

It was his hard years which prepared him to tolerate the stresses that came with the abolition of slavery, the victory of the Civil War, and the capacity to lead during these tumultuous times. He was honed through the tears and anguish and hurt of his lost loved ones. He was built in the times of blindness between careers. But interestingly, he was never lost.

If I learned anything from Mr. Lincoln’s story, it’s that motivation isn’t permanent. It is renewed each day. Vision isn’t indefinite. It is cast each morning. Discipline isn’t owned. It is fought for by the minute. And dreams are not free. They are realized by ruthless individuals unwilling to give up.

The next time you’re ready to pull out the white flag, think about what future story you might be sacrificing. Reflect on the customers, the followers, the watchers, and the critics. Be mature enough to evaluate the real loss of a surrender. Be wise enough to see the purpose of your trials. Be smart enough to change your plan before you change your dream. But most of all, be a force willing to move forward regardless of the pain.

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Was this helpful for you? Are you struggling with giving up? Let me know in the comments below.


Dale Partridge
Dale Partridge is the Founder of He's also a keynote speaker and author of the Wall Street Journal & USA Today Bestselling book People Over Profit.


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  1. Melissa says:

    Thank you for this. My fiance and I are currently starting up our own company after many years of debate and unhappiness in our mundane jobs. However, he becomes overwhelmed with defeat and insecurity. Your articles, your wisdom, and your willingness to share it with all of us is saving our relationship and saving him as a person. I cannot thank you and Veronica enough for opening up your lives to help all of us with our own. Definitely feeling motivated to keep chasing our passions thanks to you.

    • That’s incredible, Melissa! Gosh, so humbling and so encouraging at the same time. Glad to have you both here. ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Kim McCormick says:

    “Be wise enough to see the purpose of your trials. Be smart enough to change your plan before you change your dream. But most of all, be a force willing to move forward regardless of the pain.”
    You are a light in the darkness! Your writing is a gift and so needed at this time. This article was right on time !! For me ! Think of the way our life uplift and influence others !!

  3. Really needed to hear this. I love reading your blogs and Facebook posts, I’ve truly been inspired by them! I just wanted to say thank you. You are impacting way more people than you realize.

  4. Kyla says:

    Hey Dale! One of your articles popped up in my newsfeed. I clicked “like”, then followed over to your page and now here on your website. Honestly your content is like pure gold. I just bought your People over Profit book, once I’m through it I look forward to signing up for StartUpCamp. I am currently sifting through some launch ideas and wondering what to do with an existing website I have. I couldn’t have come across you at a better time. You rock!

    • Kyla, that is so AWESOME. Thank you for the kind words and I am so glad you found what you were looking for here! Keep crushing.

  5. Tim says:

    I’m going to Blow these words up and put them on a Canvas –

    ” motivation isnโ€™t permanent. It is renewed each day. Vision isnโ€™t indefinite. It is cast each morning. Discipline isnโ€™t owned. It is fought for by the minute. And dreams are not free. They are realized by ruthless individuals unwilling to give up”

    Simple and Profound.

  6. Maria says:

    I am so glad I kept reading, thank you.

  7. Margaret says:

    I am on the verge on giving up. The pain and the shame of my life not turning out as I wanted it is almost unbareable. But still I try every day and the part “be a force villing to move forward regardless the pain” really spoke to me.
    I am afraid of what will come but hope for something better in the future. Yet somedays there is no hope and I feel like giving up. Thank god I then have my little dog with me on the struggle ๐Ÿ™‚
    Good timing for me also with this,article. Thank you

  8. Beautifully written piece and powerful words! Thank you!
    We can often imagine that the people who achieve great things are somehow superior or gifted people who achieve things effortlessly – it’s nice to be reminded that they had/have moments of doubt and lost direction too and if they do then then maybe it’s not so bad that we do too! Definitely glad to have read this today.

  9. Corbin says:

    Great work linking a well respected historical figure with us commoners ๐Ÿ˜‰ And like the other people in the list, your words really have inspired me to continue moving forward with my Startup business. Thank you.

  10. When you said, “in times of testing its easy to lose sight of why you started” it resonated deeply with me.

    The daily grind is challenging and when you’re piled under a to do list it can become easy to forget why you’re working so hard on all the tasks in front of you.

    I’m walking away from this post remembering and reminding myself of why I’m showing up everyday and work slow and smart.

    Great insight. Thank you!

  11. Joanna says:

    Fabulous. Thank you for the encouragement and inspiration.

  12. Joanna says:

    Fabulous article. Thank you for the encouragement and inspiration.

  13. LKCampbell says:

    This came right on time for me. All I can say is WOW, your writing has impressed me before but this time you have out done yourself, such an inspirational piece from an inspirational guy!!

    • Thank you so much for the affirmation. I’m glad the story spoke to you in this way!

  14. Thank you so much. I needed this post. My life is nowhere near as bad as Abe’s, and he persevered to become a ground-breaking president. I can keep going.

  15. Dale, Seriously… Best writing to date. I’m crying over here. Thank you. Such a plethora to learn from those who’ve gone before.


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