Taking offense has become our country's national pastime. As a result, being inoffensive, and being offended are the great addictions of our generation. But it's more than that; it’s the great creator of quiet. It scares incredible people with worthwhile words into a life of silence.
You might be living similar to how Veronica and I used to live—passionate and tenacious yet intimidated by the haters hiding on social media. Don’t be. The offense is their choice. It’s not a disease you inflict upon your listeners, your readers, or your customers. It’s simply a reaction from broken people too foolish to find healing.
Today, I'm going to share three statements that will help you chase your dreams not run from them, to start that business not stall on it, and to lead those people toward something not lose them to nothing.
1. Whoever Is Trying To Bring You Down Is Already Below You.
I've been on Fox News, NBC, MSNBC, Good Morning America, CBS, and everywhere in between. I've had the press attack my wife about her personal beliefs. I've had posts go viral for millions to share their thoughts, their positions, and their hate. But one thing remains true. If someone hates you, it's typically for one of three reasons:
- They either see you as a threat.
- They hate themselves.
- Or they want to be you.
Overcoming your fear of starting first requires you to realize who you're afraid of. While you might think it's an entire pack of ravenous wolves, you'll soon learn it's just a few squirrels with too much time on their hands. Don't let their words halter your step. Don't let their brokenness push you back. But most of all, don't let them distract you from the work you set out to do.
Remember, as Ronald Regan once said, "You'll never reach your destination if you stop and throw rocks at every dog that barks."
2. Be Strong. You Never Know Who You're Inspiring.
Most people have a ‘me’-centric, or myopic, understanding of the dreams they have. They believe that pursuing a certain idea will make them more fulfilled, more productive, more successful, happier and more wealthy. They don’t give much thought to how others could and should be affected.
Years ago, I received a letter from a gentleman who said he'd been following me for years. He began to tell me how his marriage was falling apart because of his addiction to his business. He went on to tell me how his wife had moved out, his children were not permitted to see him, and his life seemed to be disintegrating before his very eyes.
Then, on Aprill 22, 2016 I put out this post on Facebook (as seen below) and it changed his life forever. His letter read, "Dale, I don't know what it is about the words you've chosen here, but they hit me in the heart. That night, I immediately changed my perspective on success. It's been almost two months since I've made that decision, and I'm happy to say my wife and kids moved back in last week. We're finally beginning a new life with my priorities straight."
I just about lost it. Tears welled up in my eyes. But interestingly, I realized it didn't matter if I had a million followers or a hundred, the messages that we put out to the world have far more impact to others than we realize. We might not receive a letter from every person we help, but our voice, our thoughts, and our dreams are a gift—and not just to us, but to them.
3. Kill Them With Success And Bury Them With A Smile
Doubt, resistance, and hate might be some of the most effective motivators on the planet. But don't be fooled, some people will hate you simply because they see you enjoying the success they don't have from the work they haven't done.
Our greatest weapon is to rise above. To be so focused on fulfilling our calling that we don't hear, don't read, and don't think about the negative opinions attempting to bring us down.
Years ago, I had another blogger blast me on Twitter. He called me "a fraud, a fake, and a liar". What did I do? I immediately emailed him an apology and tweeted out his articles for an entire day. I would say things like, "Wow. This was an incredible read. Great writing @hisname." You should have seen how quickly he died.
Starting is a science but success is an art. As leaders, we must protect our good name with our reputation and our achievements. Not everyone deserves a comment back, but the heart and maturity to handle the haters with joy is a key ingredient to living out our dreams well.
I'll leave you with what the great Winston Churchill said to a young man complaining about the resistance he encountered while fighting for political freedom during World War II, "You have enemies? Good. That mean's you've stood for something sometime in your life."
Go out there. Chase your dream. Start your business. Share your thoughts. The haters will always be there but when you remember these three statements, you'll always come out on top.
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